My Word for 2018

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What is your word for 2018?  Do you have a word that you want to set the tone for the entire year? I guess in the last few years, it’s been a popular thing. The late bloomer that I am, I just learned about it a few days ago.

I took a little time to really look at what I wanted to achieve in 2018, and what were my biggest obstacles.  When I really looked closely I realized that I was my biggest obstacle.  Yes, that’s what I said, it’s me.  So with a little soul searching, I came up with my word, Courage. Continue reading

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2017, A Year to Remember


As the end of the year approaches, I think it is safe to say we are all scrambling trying to make the holiday season “perfect”. In our sometimes forced Christmas cheer mode, it is nice to take a break from the online shopping and last minute trips to Target, and just look back and remember the year (cuz boy it flies by quickly).

When I sit down to think of everything that happened in 2017, I am reminded how crazy and busy it was.

Here is My Top Ten of 2017.

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What I am telling ALL of my kids about the #Metoo Movement

Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock for the last few months, you have probably heard of the #Metoo Movement. If you haven’t heard of it, #metoo is the hashtag for everyone out there that has been the target of sexual harassment, abuse, and/or assault. It is a method to show how prevelant sexual abuse is in this country, and to hopefully help start the conversation to ultimate healing for all those affected.

On October 15, 2017, Alyssa Milano highlighted this hashtag, that was actually initially created by Tarana Burke in 2007.

Recently, I was talking with my mother about the #metoo movement.  I explained how many people I know on Facebook have actually shared this hashtag.  I was almost shocked by how many strong women have been the victim of sexual abuse in some shape or form.  It’s not just something that is happening to other people, this is and has happened to many people in my life.

I explained to my mother that I did not realize that I was one of the lucky ones.  I have never been the victim of sexual abuse.  My mom said that she had the same conversation with my sister, and my sister was also one of the lucky ones.  But when my sister was talking with a table full of women, they had all been victims in some form. This shocked my sister, as it shocked me.

This really made my family wonder, why have we been so lucky?  I have definitely put myself in situations where something could have happened, much more than my sister, but still I have never been assaulted.

I do strongly believe that most of it is luck.  No one does anything to deserve sexual harassment or assault.  But I do believe how I was brought up, may have helped a little. And because of this, I hope to raise my kids in many of the same ways.  Below are the lessons I want to teach my girls and boys.  And yes, I said my boys as well.  This needs to be conversation that we have with all of our kids.

Lesson 1:  It is okay to be a strong independent woman.

Lesson 2:  There is nothing wrong with being suspicious of new people.

Lesson 3:  Stand up tall, with your head up high, and always be aware of your surroundings.

Lesson 4:  Never question your own self-worth.

Lesson 5:  We all deserve to be treated equally.

With Harvey Weinstein, Matt Lauer, Kevin Spacey and many many others being in the headlines, it is pretty obvious to me that this behavior has been ingrained in our society for much too long.  Now that this topic has truly come out of the shadows, we can finally start conversations that, in recent history, seemed taboo.

I hope that these basic five lessons will help my kids stay cautious and safe.  But ultimately I have to pray and leave it in the hands of God.  And if the day comes when one my kids become part of the #MeToo movement, I will be there for them in any and every way I can.

As a mother, I am so glad the #MeToo movement has come to the forefront of the media.  So often, kids think they are invincible, and none of these things can happen to them.  With the prevelance of #MeToo all over Facebook, I think it’s clear that kids are starting to listen.

 

 

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How to Simplify Your Holiday Season

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Waking up first thing on Christmas morning, running to see what Santa left us; going over to my grandparents for Thanksgiving dinner and Christmas lunch; yummy cheese fondue on Christmas Eve; these are my memories and family traditions of the holidays when I was growing up.  Life was simple.  Life was good.  And I was oblivious to everything my mother did for our family (on our tight budget).

As I got older, I attempted my first Thanksgiving gathering and realized how much work it really took.  As years passed, I was invited to more and more holiday parties.  I was amazed by the hostesses and their perfect homes.  I always wondered their secrets.  How did they seem to have everything so together?  How did they seem to be having so much fun at their own party, while looking truly stress-free?

I finally found the secret behind many of these people's ability to manage the holiday season, and do it with such style and grace.  While it seems as though these parties are just thrown together (or at least that is what the host always says), it actually takes an immense amount of planning.  Even if you are not the Martha Stewart hostess of your social circle, planning is the key to surviving and flourishing during the holiday season.

I think I knew a long time ago that I needed to be more of a planner, and boy did I try to. With all of my effort, I was still a mess and running out to buy last minute gifts every year.  My best of intentions constantly seemed to just fall flat.  But then one day I was reading Simplify Your Life: Get Organized and Stay That Way by Marcia Ramsland, and she opened my eyes to a better way to do things.  She seemed to have the secret to a stress-free holiday season.  I highly recommend this book for Ramsland's methods and specific devotionals.

What is the secret to her simplifying the holidays?  The Eight-Week Holiday Calendar is the answer. Below is a sample calendar.

For me the Eight-Week Holiday Calendar begins the day after Halloween.  Follow Ramsland's four steps and three phases, and you will be amazed how much more enjoyable your holiday season will be.

Step 1: Fill in all the important dates like Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, birthdays, etc

Step 2: Write in holiday celebrations that you plan to attend

Step 3: Highlight vacation days for kids and parents

Step 4: Number the weeks in your personal calendar as a countdown

These four steps help to get the basic planning down in writing.  After that is done, it is much easier to plan all the other stuff that needs to be done.

Phase 1: Gift Shopping and Wrapping

Phase 2: Decorations, Cards and Mailing

Phase 3: Celebrations, Cooking and Cleaning

Going phase by phase, scheduling each one of these tasks into the Eight-Week Holiday Calendar will help to give order to the crazy holiday season.  I know it might sound a little funny to schedule gift wrapping and cleaning, but it's amazing how much more seems to get accomplished when things are scheduled and written down.

This calendar is not written in stone.  Life is constantly changing, and we need to be able to adapt for sanity, if nothing else.  Also, it is not necessary that the eight week calendar is beautiful either.  My calendar is hand written in the back of my paper planner, and I love it.  I like using pencil for my holiday planner because I am constantly rearranging and rescheduling.  Here is an example of a recent year's holiday calendar.  It may not be pretty, but it's very user friendly.

I like to have the eight week Christmas calendar close by.  The back of my daily planner seems to fit perfectly into my life.  This way, when a new event comes up, I actually know if I am available or not.

After using this calendar, I actually sent out personalized Christmas cards for the first time in over 10 years.  This may not be a big deal for some people, but I gotta admit I was really proud of myself.  Like with most calendars, things come up and changes needed to occur, but for once, it was easy to adapt because I had everything I needed to do directly in front of me.

Marcia Ramsland has many other great ideas, and even came out with a book specifically for the holiday season, Simplify your holidays, a Christmas planner to use year after year.  Check out her advice for organizing gift giving, menu planning and even stress reducing tips.

With the tools that I have learned, I am thankfully able to enjoy the holidays more than I even thought possible.  And it is very important that we remember the reason for the season.  It is not a time to try and keep up with "the Jones", but a time for friends, family and faith.  It is a time to be thankful for everything we have.  It is a time to gather and enjoy each other.  It is a time to love and to Thank God!

 

Dear Lord, I never would have believed it was possible to survive the holiday season without a complete and total breakdown, but now I know it's possible.  Thank you for the leading me to find the answers and to never give up hope.

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