Being a stepmom, or bonus mom, is an adventure and has been one of the best things in my life. But life doesn’t always have happy endings. Sometimes divorces happen. And unlike parents with biological kids, when a marriage ends, a step-parent has no rights. This is a letter of love from many previous bonus parents to kids everywhere.
First things first… I love you. I am so proud of the young adults that you are becoming. There is simply not a day that goes by that I do not think of you and miss you.
When your father and I divorced, I realize this did not just affect us but you as well. I can’t even imagine going through one divorce as an innocent child, but then a second divorce as well. I am so sorry for any pain that we caused. Please know that I have never stopped thinking about you, worrying about you and loving you.
I understand you have chosen not to remain in contact with me, and I respect any reason that you have for your decision. But please know you will always have a piece of my heart. And if the day comes when you need me, I will be there for you. If you ever just need someone to talk to, I will be there to listen. Just know I am there for you always.
I have no intention to ever disrespect your parents in any way, by pushing my way into your lives. But please know that there is someone out there who will continue to pray for you and speak highly of you often. I hope and pray one day to be a part of your life again, but no matter what, I wish you happiness and success in your life.
With much love,
Your Bonus Mom