When I take a hard long look at my life there are a few undeniable facts that I can’t ignore. I have a loving family and a beautiful home. Overall, I am an overwhelmingly lucky woman. But when I look around at my life, I am constantly stressed out.
In my post “Let it Go“, I went room by room and purged. I was amazed by how much stuff I had. But when two homes are combined, you realize how much stuff you have and how much stuff you have been hiding from yourself. We made several trips to Goodwill, Salvation Army and Dress for Success. I have also earned money through a garage sale, consignment shops and selling to Thredup. But even though I thought I had everything under control, I did not truly learn to “let it go”.
So now I jump forward to today and what has changed? Not much. I am constantly picking up stuff in every room. Each day I think I can find a better home for my possessions. And at the end of the day, my home is a mess and I am exhausted. And the one place that is supposed to give me solice, my bedroom, is the worst place in my home. I wake up every morning, looking around and instantly feel stressed and exhausted by the appearance of my bedroom. I can’t even imagine what my husband thinks (I guess I can because at times he just can’t hold in the stress it causes him as well).
There are two types of stress: 1) stress I can’t control and 2) stress that controls me. There is no reason to even discuss stress I can’t control, but it is exactly that, out of my control. But, stress I can control, now that’s a totally different subject.
The areas that give me the greatest stress are my cluttered home, my appearance, my health and finding my purpose in life. I can give you every excuse in the world for why all of these things aren’t better, but when it comes down to it, it is me.
One of my favorite hobbies is to learn more about organization. I have read so many books, but seem to enjoy the excitement of reading the books and the passion of the author rather than fully following through with organizing my life.
When I finally read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, one book finally addressed all of my stresses. Marie Kondo talks about the power of tidying your life and the overwhelming impact it can have on every aspect of your life. One of the first steps I am embracing is picturing what I want my life to look like. This does not mean picturing things but picturing how you want a space to feel like and how you want to live your life.
This idea has given me hope. The process is basically simple but oh so indepth. What sparks joy? Over and over, that is the ultimate goal of the KonMari method, to fill your life with only things that spark joy. When I read this, it speaks to me. This is what I have been searching for.
1. Commit yourself to tidying up
2. Imagine your ideal lifestyle
3. Finish discarding first
4. Tidy by category, not by location
5. Follow the right order
6. Ask yourself if it sparks joy
Now that I have my blueprint, where do I start? The KonMari Method recommends a specific order: clothes, books, papers, miscelllany and finally sentimental items. I, like many people, tend to hold on to things longer than I should. I don’t know if it’s the sentimentality or the idea of wasted money but I have a hard time getting rid of things. I think it’s finally time to let go of a lot and move forward.
I read an amazing quote recently from The Tidy Mom that was just the kick in the pants that I needed to start this journey.
Davonne Parks, thank you for bringing motivation and inspiration in my battle to tidy my life and get rid of the stress.
I am ready to look ahead and am tired of holding on to the past. The past holds jobs I hated, jobs I loved, friends I’ve lost, family I’ve lost, lost loves, a thinner self and the sadness of divorce. I am ready and just need to look forward and embrace what I have, what I love and the life that is directly in front of me.
My journey to remove the bad stress from my life starts with using the KonMari blueprint to decluttering my life, toddler in tow. The toddler part will definitely add a degree of difficulty to the task, but I’m up for it. With added guidance from Organizing Moms, Realistic KonMari for Moms, it’s now or never.
…to be continued (10 bags down and many more to go)